Position-momentum selection rules in the first excited hydrogen eigenspace

The operators $X_3$ and $P_3$ commute with $L_3$, so they preserve $m$. Both are odd under parity, so they connect only states of opposite orbital parity. Within the $n=2$ eigenspace, only the pair $|2,0,0⟩$ and $|2,1,0⟩$ can therefore have nonzero matrix elements.